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I am a writer, editor, and author, a girly feminist, slightly neurotic, occasionally elitist, often temperamental, cynically optimistic, compassionately liberal, fiscally conservative, somewhat intellectual, and always irreverent. I wear a lot of black but surround myself with color. I’m not southern-born but I am southern-bred. I am an extrovert who needs a lot of alone time.

-- Kelly Love Johnson








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riting is a passion, but until it starts paying the bills, many writers find themselves in the 9 to 5 work world, butting their heads against the glass ceiling and being left on the wrong side of the wage gap. The good news is—Kelly Love Johnson is the perfect guide to help advance your career and show you how you can earn what you are worth!

Kelly Love Johnson is a writer and managing editor for Skirt! magazine. She got her first job at age 15, worked full-time through two college degrees, and earned her management skills badge by swimming with sharks and being thrown to the wolves. She hasn’t worn pantyhose or fetched coffee in 10 years.

Kelly has been writing for publication for more than 10 years (for Skirt! since 1999) and her work has appeared in a variety of national and regional publications, including Flair Magazine, Mademoiselle, Digs Magazine, Parents, and numerous literary journals. She won the South Carolina Fiction Project for her short fiction in 1999 and a Family Y Fiction Fellowship in 2000. She occasionally leads writing workshops in Charleston and has been a guest lecturer or panelist at several regional writers’ conferences.

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WOW: Kelly, welcome to WOW! We’re excited to have you with us, so I’ll just jump right in. You mention having gotten your first job at fifteen. I was sixteen and worked at the prize counter in Chuck E. Cheese, cashing out Skee-Ball tickets for children wearing pizza sauce smiles. What was the job that launched your first step into the workforce?

KELLY: I can’t say that it was my first job, though having a job at fifteen certainly impacted my plans for my future (because I learned pretty early that I didn’t want to be a hostess at Carey Hilliards, a waitress at Po Folks, or a drive-thru cashier at Arby’s for the rest of my life).

The job that really put me on the first few rungs of the corporate ladder was a bit of a fluke—I took a job as file clerk at a software company during my first year of college, thinking that filing all day would free my brain for more important pursuits, like studying and writing (which I’ve been hooked on since fourth grade). Apparently, I was an awesome file clerk, because I ended up supervising a customer service staff within a year and managing a call center before I was 25. And I was taking a full course load, summers included, in college.

WOW: Already a manager by 25—that’s amazing! Clearly, you’ve done well paddling your way through the treacherous waters of Corporate America. How did you go from that arena to deciding to become a writer?

KELLY: Everything I’ve ever done has always been secondary to my writing aspirations, so the writing came first. I just didn’t know that I could make a living from it until 1998 or 1999!

I love the personal narrative genre (both reading it and writing it), but I’ll admit to a phase in high school during which I thought I would become a famous poet. I have notebooks that date back to 8th and 9th grade, but the cringe factor on that teen angst poetry is so high I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to read them.

Corporate America was my support, my stopgap, my way to make money until I could do what I truly love. I think “working for the man” can be difficult for creative types, but I wouldn’t trade my experience for anything. My current job is a strange hybrid of creative and corporate—I have one foot on either side.



"Everything I’ve ever done has

always been secondary

to my writing..."

WOW: I never spent more than about a year total in my various attempts to work in Corporate America (think square peg, round hole). In your book, skirt! Rules for the Workplace: An Irreverent Guide to Advancing Your Career, you talk about breaking through the glass ceiling. Is there really such a thing in the 21st Century workplace?

KELLY: Absolutely, and the data backs it up. Though women make up almost half of America's labor force (U.S. Department of Labor), only seven Fortune 500 companies have women CEOs or presidents, and 90 of those 500 companies don't have ANY female corporate officers (Catalyst.org). This isn’t a fluke—and it isn’t because women are staying home with their children. The number of single women who work full time while raising children gets higher every year, and unfortunately, a large percentage of those women are surviving at or below poverty level.

WOW: I think it’s great that in your book you include personal anecdotes about your workplace experiences to illustrate a specific point you wanted to make. If you can pick a favorite example, I’d love to have you share the story with our readers.

KELLY: One of the statements I make when I teach workshops about getting ahead at work is "hire people who are after your job." It tends to get a mixed reaction, but my point is that you can’t get ahead until there’s someone ready to step into your place. I’m always baffled when bosses see employees with high aspirations as a threat.

The example I use in the book is about an intern I hired when I was an editor for a local newspaper. She was definitely a high achiever—showed up on time, was enthusiastic, and made it clear she wanted to learn everything about the business of journalism. There were other interns during the semesters she worked, but none matched her level of professionalism or ability—and she knew it. Halfway into her first semester with us, she informed me that she wanted my job (or one like it).

The following semester, rather than asking her back as an intern, I hired her as a part-time employee. While still taking a full course load, she threw herself into the job. Her favorite phrase was (from the movie "Working Girl"), "I’m right on top of that, Kel." Before she’d even graduated from college, she was in charge of our internship program (hiring to firing) and filling in for me when I was out of the office.

One of the other editors and I came up with a nickname for our high-performing former-intern-turned-editorial-assistant: "Hostile Takeover." The "hostile" part was a joke, but the takeover part wasn’t. I was promoted to managing editor only because she was there, upon college graduation, to step into my shoes full-time as assistant editor.

If we feel threatened or encroached upon by the ambitious others who work for us, we only hurt our own careers. I’ve seen mediocre managers who hire underperformers simply because they think it makes them look that much better. Wrong! Hiring high achievers not only makes us appear smarter, chances are they can teach us a thing or two. Not to mention that when we’re ready to move up another rung, we have a ready-made replacement.



"There’s enough out there for all of us to get a piece of the pie."


(Photo: Kelly & Nina)

WOW: On your book blog, you posted a quote: "When women think of power as dominance, they really hate it. When they think about power as the ability to do things, they love it. Because women love getting stuff done." ~ Margaret Heffernan, author of How She Does It: How Women Entrepreneurs are Changing the Rules of Business Success (More magazine, September 2007).

How do you think women can reprogram themselves to think differently about their own power?

KELLY: I think we have to stop thinking that we have to act like men to get ahead at work. I’ve seen a lot of good female managers set themselves up for failure because they were so fixated on power that they lost sight of their own abilities. I don’t care what my title is or what parking space I get or who I’m the boss of. I care about how much money I make and how I can improve my job performance.

The rest of it is all ego and we really should rise above it. I’ve seen a lot of backstabbing and “mine is bigger than yours” in the workplace, from women AND men, and there’s no doubt that it holds us back. There’s enough out there for all of us to get a piece of the pie.

"...we have to stop thinking that we have to act like men to get ahead at work."

(Kelly’s mood board at the office)

WOW: I’m very familiar with alpha and beta personality types—a subject you talk about in your book. (I’m definitely an alpha.) But can you explain to our readers how those two types face different challenges in the workplace?

KELLY: Because I am an alpha, I have a tendency to take charge when a crisis presents itself. I live my life in problem-solution mode: Problem? Solution. End of discussion. Sometimes I have to remind the betas around me that I do want to hear their ideas, and I am most often incredibly grateful when someone else speaks up, because it takes the pressure off.

If you’re a beta, stalling tactics work well to give you some time to get your thoughts in order and, if necessary, give yourself a little pep talk before jumping in feet first. My own beta mantra is, "I’m good at my job...I’m good at my job." I am good at my job; sometimes I just have to remind myself on days when my confidence wanes. Stalling tactics: "Let me just run back to my desk and get my notes on that," "I have to make a quick call; can we meet in the conference room in ten minutes?" and (my personal favorite, learned from my psychotherapist mother) "So what I hear you saying is that we have a serious problem with XYZ. Can you give me some background?" (and use that background summary time to gather your own thoughts).

Every beta has a tiny alpha inside—and vice versa. Let the little one out every now and then; you might be surprised at the results when your inner-alpha throws a little muscle around, or your inner-beta turns a volatile meeting into a problem-solving roundtable.

There’s a lot more to it—the book has checklists on how to know if you’re an alpha or beta, how to modify behavior, how to use your traits for good and not evil, etc.

...the dictionary defines assertive as "persistently positive or confident."

(Nina’s having none of it!)

WOW: In the corporate workplace, it seems that the women who have strong opinions and choose to voice them are called witches (with a slight consonant change). How can a woman assert herself and not be considered a threat? Or is that possibility just wishful thinking?

KELLY: In the workplace, we’re expected to be self-confident. And particularly in sales positions, we’re trained to be assertive. Good salespeople are described as "bulldogs"—they latch on and won’t let go. Men are applauded for this behavior, while many women are treated like yappy Chihuahuas for the same characteristics.

Typically the word aggressive is used to describe behavior that’s pushy, abrasive, or forceful. In contrast, the dictionary defines assertive as "persistently positive or confident." The real difference between being assertive and being aggressive is how our words and behavior affect other people. Assertive communication supports our own rights while still taking the feelings of others into consideration. In short, assertive behavior shows respect and aggressive behavior does not.

One of the most insidious reactions women have had as a result of negative stereotypes is to pull back, often running in the other direction. I’ve encountered too many soft-spoken, demure women who wonder why they’re not making sales or getting promoted. I can tell from their body language and use of the passive voice that they’re probably being passed over because they’ve become as charismatic as dishrags.

Even though I know the answer, I always ask them when was the last time they asked for a raise or promotion (or sale or new account). The response is usually some form of "why bother?" They feel trapped in a catch-22, damned if they do and damned if they don’t. "I was told to tone it down," one friend told me. "So I did."

There isn’t just one thing women like us can do (I have a lengthy list in Chapter Five), but I don’t think being considered a threat (or a bitch) is necessarily a bad thing.



"Being a good feminist has nothing to do with hating men. It’s about equality."


WOW: The concept of feminism has changed so much over the many decades—from the first blossom, seeking women’s suffrage, through the years of militant feminism that was very anti-man. Do you have an opinion about the current trend and its direction?

KELLY: Many women are hesitant to identify themselves as a feminist because of the negative connotations and stereotypes the word carries—like man hater or (my least favorite) “feminazi.” It’s easy for people who would welcome a return to the 1950s (women in the kitchen, not the boardroom) to dismiss our ideals and values as feminist propaganda. But it’s important to be clear about one thing: Being a good feminist has nothing to do with hating men. It’s about equality. We don’t want more; we just want the same.

WOW: You have a chapter in your book called “Work Like a Girl.” What does that mean?

KELLY: We are girls, we are females, we are women—but we shouldn’t let anyone take those things and turn them into reasons why we deserve less and why we should be considered weaker, lacking in intelligence, and run by our emotions.

Women have many characteristics that make us natural leaders. For instance, the very same nurturing instincts that can lead us astray on a career path by allowing us to become sidetracked looking for external validation are also the instincts that make us compassionate managers.

A good manager understands that, while the bottom line comes first, they are still managing a function that involves human beings. Women are less likely to put that fact aside, and we are able to focus both on the bottom line and on individual members of our staff. Rather than encouraging women to act like men in the workplace, the "Work Like a Girl" chapter highlights how we can draw on our natural female traits that will help us improve job performance.

"Women have many characteristics that make us natural leaders."

WOW: Do you have any tips to share to help women direct the future of their careers?

KELLY: Tons! I wish I could narrow it down to one or two. In general, I think focusing more on the bottom line and your paycheck/compensation and less on the emotional and social aspects of work life is something I’ve seen over and over again with successful women.

I learned from one of them a long time ago (OK, it was my mother) that making friends in the office is less important than making money. It’s great to have a social work environment, but the size of your paycheck matters most. I think if more women were comfortable asking for money, talking about money, asking what they can do to make more money, we’d be able to close the wage gap.

WOW: Your book is filled with so many practical and encouraging tidbits to inspire women to have the career success they deserve. I’d love to have you share your thoughts on this with our readers.

KELLY: Thank you! I’ll consider it successful even if it only gives one woman the courage to ask for a raise. Closing the wage gap is something I’m very passionate about. It makes no sense in this day and age to have any disparity in salary based on gender. I think our society has progressed enough so that gender should not be a factor in the workplace.

WOW: I admit, I’m not exactly the office politics poster girl. I never play well with others, I run with scissors, and if I get angry enough, I throw verbal sand. What kind of advice would you give someone like me—someone who likes to march to her own drum, but needs to learn to get along?

KELLY: I’m not Ms. Perfect either! In fact, I’ve broken every single one of my own rules. Just three months ago, I had a mini breakdown and came this-close to bursting into tears in the office. I put my big sunglasses on, picked up my bag, and got out of the office as fast as I could—then sat in my car and cried for an hour.

There’s a whole chapter in the book on "damage control" that covers how to make a comeback when you screw up. In the instance I mentioned, my boss knew I left in tears because I ran into a co-worker on my way out and couldn’t stop to talk because I was holding it in. I made sure she understood that I needed some space, that it wasn’t something I do all the time (she knew that), and that I’d come back to the office the next morning with a happy face on.

Temperance and honesty are our best friends. If we learn how to recognize what triggers tantrums, crying jags, and outbursts, we can better manage them. It’s not the action; it’s the reaction we should be worried about.



"Temperance and honesty are our best friends."

WOW: That’s good advice! I’m like-this with honesty, but I don’t think temperance and I have met yet. You certainly handled that situation well. Can you share with our women readers some web resources that will help them move ahead in the workplace?

KELLY: It’s incredibly important to do your research on what you’re worth and Salary.com is a great tool for that. I also love FastCompany.com—I’ve been a fan since it came out in print in the 90s. I think it’s a great mag to expand horizons, learn management skills, get ideas for being a leader at work—and it isn’t dry. It’s probably skewed more toward tech business, but I learn something new every time I visit the site (or read the print mag).

WOW: If you had one single message you would want readers to take away with them after reading skirt! Rules for the Workplace: An Irreverent Guide to Advancing Your Career, what would it be?

KELLY: If you’re afraid to ask for a raise, get over it! There’s a lot more to that, but if I had to sum it up in a sentence, that would be the one.

WOW: [laughs] I’m so inspired—I think I’ll have to ask Angela for a raise! But seriously, I think WOW! has really found a unique niche and is filling an extremely important need for women writers. As an editor for skirt! Magazine, do you see a trend developing with women embracing their all-woman audience and excelling in online and print publishing?

KELLY: I think skirt! is a unique product and I don’t have a lot of experience with other women’s magazine in the same way (other than as a freelance writer). I think it has less to do with the women-centric focus of the publication and more to do with not "dumbing down" our content like other magazines and newspapers do. We don’t edit out the big words, we would never run a "how to please your man" article, we understand that women are more complicated than diet tips and recipes. Our readers are smart and we never underestimate them. I don’t think I answered your trend question!

WOW: Don’t worry. Your answer was better than my question! Now, I’m curious... Do you have another book in the works? If so, can you tell our readers a little bit about it?

KELLY: I do have another book in the works, but the concept isn’t quite finalized yet. It developed from an essay I wrote earlier this year called "Hairy Legs & All" that ran in our July 2007 issue. I stopped shaving my legs (and under my arms) for nine months after I realized I didn’t know WHY I was removing my body hair (turns out that Gillette marketed a razor for women in the 1920s and that’s how it became not only mainstream, but practically mandatory). I treated the process like an “experiment” in feminism and came to some pretty interesting conclusions in the end (and started shaving again).

The general idea is: Can I be a feminist and...shave my legs/wear lipstick/wish for a husband/change my last name when I get married/etc. I hope it will be a treatise for young women who have misplaced ideas about what feminists are supposed to be, as well as help negate the feminist-as-dirty-word paradigm that we’re all trying to combat.

WOW: That sounds like such a great premise for a book! I can’t wait to read it—I already want to interview you about it! And I just have to say that I love your outside-the-box experiment. (But I can’t go a single day without shaving or I get all heebie jeebie about it!) Ok, now, back on track… In your book, you talk about embracing change. Are there any significant changes on the horizon for you with your book coming out in January 2008?

KELLY: I think I’m going to spend a bit of time traveling here and there for book signings and workshops, but I’m not quitting my day job or anything! I love skirt! too much.

WOW: That sounds like a great plan. And a lot of juggling! With 2008 just around the corner, do you have any resolutions for the New Year?

KELLY: I make over 100 every year and a lot of them are intensely personal, but “make more money” is at the top of the list. And of course, finish my second book. On the intensely personal side, I have some commitment issues with relationships that I’d like to try and overcome. I’m learning how to compromise in my personal life and have twenty or thirty resolutions relating to that. It’s a hard road!

WOW: Kelly, I have no doubt that you’ll successfully navigate any path you choose in your life. You have such a wonderful outlook and your passion for your topic is contagious! Thank you so much for such an inspirational interview! I know your tips and suggestions will be a great call-to-action for our readers!

Readers, check out Kelly’s site at www.kellylovejohnson.com for tentative dates of her signings and workshops; more will be added as they are confirmed. You can reach her via email from her site as well. She has a myspace page www.myspace.com/rulesforwork and will send out bulletins to her friends list as readings/signings are added. You can also catch up with Kelly and "gaze into her navel" on her Microfamous blog.

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Annette Fix is an Editor for WOW! Women On Writing, an author, and spoken-word storyteller based in Laguna Niguel, California. Annette's memoir, The Break-Up Diet will be available Valentine's Day 2008.


 

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